The Mirror

“Symbols are everywhere, and everything that you experience mirrors a part of you . . .

The Four Insights, Alberto Villoldo

Recently I was in a case conference where a colleague expressed a growing frustration and anger toward a client who after 10 years of therapy had not made any significant movement or change. As I drove home from that meeting I found myself caught in the following monologue.

“I suppose we all have places where we don’t make movement in our lives; places where people think we should make changes, places where people want us to make movement or even parts of us that want or wish that we would move, make some change, do something to make our lives different for ourselves or others. And yet we don’t. We stay stuck in an old belief, an old behavior, an old attitude, a certain defensive pattern or way of viewing a person or the world…something we just can’t seem to give up or do differently.

“ If this were my client I must ask myself ‘what is it that I don’t want to change in my life? Where don’t I want to make some movement? What don’t I want to give up so that I can make changes that someone wants me to make or some part of me wants me to make? Where am I like this client? Where is this client mirroring my life to me? Where am I just like him?’

“ I find myself resisting answering that question. It seemed like too much work and therein lies the mirror and the shadow. Of course I am angry at him. I see myself and I don’t like what I see. “

 And so I thank my colleague for bringing this topic up. For in the coming weeks I shall examine where I am not making movement that I need to make. Even as I write this I feel a stirring in my gut about a possible answer. So I must thank this man, whomever he is and whatever his name for doing the work of God, for being my teacher here! And yet, he will never know how his inability to make movement may cause me to make movement that will change my life and potentially the lives of those I serve.  But will I?  Can I? Only time will tell. And if not?  Then, once again, he and I are one.  Perhaps I shall have a greater understanding of his plight and greater compassion for his journey. For in the end….we are no different, he and I.


  1. Thanks, Sheldon, for including me in your email sharing of your blog! I love this article!

  2. Joyce Julian · · Reply

    I thank you for always asking me this question… I hear your voice alot, so now from time to time when something is going on in my life, i always stop and examine myself!!!! Love, Light and Blessings, Namaste’

  3. Thank you for this excellent bit of writing. As always you make me sit up and want to take inventory of where I am at on my spiritual path. You always ask just the right questions to spark a new quest-Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and many Blessings wished for you!

  4. mrreinke17 · · Reply

    Thank you for such an excellent piece of writing. As usual you make me stop and think and give me desire to examine my progress along my spiritual path. I thank you for sharing your thoughts and prompting a new spiritual quest for myself. Take care and Blessings to you.

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