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THE OTHER MAN IN ME

 

 

Do you ever feel like two people, living two separate lives? One, behaving responsibly, while the other steals moments in secret or lives only in the fantasies of his mind?

The Other Man in Me is the story of one man’s journey to understand his bisexuality and to reconcile his two selves—one, a respectable husband, father, church, and community leader; the other, caught in same-sex affair and encounters.

Drawing from his dreams, fantasies and extensive research, Shalley discovers the symbolic and spiritual meanings of his erotic longings and same-sex attrac­tions. On that journey, he meets another man living in his soul, one that connects him not only the hidden story in his sexual attractions but to the meaning and purpose of his life. This book will open you to deep places in your soul and help you discover your own meaning.

Through examples and powerful exercises, you will:

  • Learn how dreams reveal the hidden story and unconscious purposes of erotic longings and sexual attractions as comments on your life.

  • Understand the symbolic and spiritual meanings of same-sex fantasies, attractions, and behaviors.

  • Find how to make peace with your masculine and feminine selves.

  • Discover how to live with same-sex desires in a manner that is congru­ent with your soul and the individual meaning of your life.

 
 

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“The Other Man in Me is a fascinating journey that will serve as a guide for any man that has found himself conflicted with his attraction to other men. Clear and emotionally evocative. Highly recommended for any man wanting to explore his sexuality in depth.”
- Dr. Steven Farmer, author of Earth Magic and Healing Ancestral Karma

“The Other Man in Me offers an extraordinary archetypal journey through human sexuality and, ultimately life itself. This provocative, challenging, and healing narrative illuminates the pain and joy of life coming to know itself.”

-K.Brynolf Lyon, Ph.D., LMHC, co-author of How to Lead the Church

“The Other Man in Me: Erotic Longing, Lust and Love: The Soul Calling is a fantastic book. The author goes deep into human's psyche and he does it with style. I recommend!”
- Richard Dowson

“A very nicely written book. The topic is so wide spread right now that is almost necessary to everyone to read it. The author is definitely a professional.”
- Susie O’Hara

“This book is an interesting introduction to one's soul and desires. I liked how the author explained everything with grace yet in an understandable way for all to get. I think this book can be very usefull to people who need a deeper explanation of one's soul and emotions, sexuality and choices.”
-Mark Timberg

“The Other Man in Me by Sheldon Shalley is a fabulous read. The author poured his soul into this book in an incredibly professional way. His journey is very interesting, his knowledge is valuable. This book is thought-provoking, helpful for those who need to understand themselves better and a great way to "see" through a different prism. I recommend it.”
-Good Reads Reviewer

“The book can be introduced as a journey to the soul. The author tells us his story and gives us a deep insight into people's mind, emotions and struggles. I enjoyed this journey and I will be looking for more.”
- Jennifer Kinley

“The author clearly states the intent of this book and gives a detailed documentation of his work. I found it challenging and extremely helpful in understanding the complexity of human sexuality. I think anyone with an interest in human attraction should purchase and read this brilliant book.”
-Jade O’Hara

“A thought provoking book full with paths to self understanding. I recommend and I will follow the author's other works with pleasure. “
- Fay Christensen

 In The Other Man in Me: Erotic Longing, Lust and Love: The Soul Calling, Sheldon Shalley shares his story with unwonted honesty and provides insights on handling the inner man who is beset with inordinate and incomprehensible passions and desires. In a voice that is irresistible and prose that is crisp, the author lifts the veil to reveal the dark night in his soul and opens a portal through which readers can see the light of understanding, bringing into the writing his experience as a shamanic healer and psychotherapist. This is a well-written book that is both filled with adventure and intrigue, a suitable read for fans of gay literature and readers who want to understand those with same-sex desires — the gay, bisexual, and straight men who wrestle with same-sex desires, fantasies, and attractions, perhaps even wrestle with the idea of having same-sex encounters and those who want to understand the struggles of loved ones in this kind of situation. In sharing his story and his experiences, Shalley offers a fresh perspective to our understanding of human sexuality, a stunning exploration that is brimming with insights, enlivening thoughts, inspiration, and advice that will alter the way many of us think about people with same-sex desires. I particularly enjoyed the connection between our carnal desires and our spiritual vibrations. Sheldon Shalley has the extraordinary ability to communicate complex thoughts with clarity and confidence. This is a book like no other, hugely perceptive and filled with wisdom.

—Franklin Bauer, Book Commentary